First night sex

First night sex is a funny old experience isn't it? And certainly never like the movies or porn films I've ever seen!! In those, clothes miraculously fall off, limbs miraculously entwine, and both parties end up achieving orgasmic ecstacy at exactly the same time!! Yeah right!

I've had a couple of absolutely banging first nights/one night stands, completely rocking. (X is a result of one of those. Was so bloody fantastic the first time I went back for a second a couple of months later - which was not only disappointing in comparison but also resulted in further single motherdom for me!). And I consider myself lucky to be able to smile and remember those few occasions.

Sometimes you just "fit" with somebody, you have a natural mutual style. DM was one of those. We just fitted. Mentally and physically I think. From the first night (not the first time but the very closely following second one at least) I knew we would rock in the bedroom department. I knew we were compatible. And compatability is a massively important factor in a relationship I would argue. But the fact of the matter is, in my experience at least, that is the exception rather than the rule.

On most occasions, there is much fumbling of clothes, bumping of noses, leaning on hair, twisting of arms in most uncomfortable positions, laying awkward on legs - usually resulting in said arms or legs either losing all feeling - and general uncomfortableness. And that's just getting it in!!! There then follows the treacherous path of attempting to bump each other's bits at a mutually enjoyable speed, in a mutually enjoyable position, hard enough but not too hard, gentle enough but not too gentle, and for long enough for all parties to be satisfied without one thinking "is that it", or the other thinking "jeez, can I stop now"!

This is all completely natural. You don't know each other. Every single person is different. Sure there are some pretty simple givens maybe (not many men I know would say no to a cock in the mouth!!), but there are so many variables to those givens. hard, fast, slow, gentle, deep, shallow, and so on and so forth. And during first night sex you don't know each other. You can't be expected to know each other. And even assuming you have discussed at some length each other's likes and dislikes, bottom line, when it comes to the first time, you're working in the dark!!

But you know what? Despite all this, despite the awkwardness and the shyness and the uncomfortableness, and the sheer bloody hard work of it all, there really is nothing like it. There will only ever be one first time. Savour it well!

PS. OG got laid last night... Can you tell? ;-)