Well, I finally had my date with Will yesterday lunchtime!
In my usually organised fashion I had emailed him a week or so ago and suggested Thursday lunchtime as my best 'window' and then promptly forgot about it! I had a couple of passing thoughts that he hadn't emailed again to say yes that's fine, or why haven't you rang/emailed back, but that was the extent of the time given over to the event. Wednesday evening, about 9.30pm, it suddenly dawned on me that Thursday was tomorrow and I had not rang or confirmed, so about 9.45pm I rang to speak to him.
We only spent a few minutes on the phone, and it very much followed the pattern of our email contact - pleasant, but nothing really exciting. So, come the designated time, I toddled off to meet him feeling rather blase about it all, which is probably a good thing as it's the first date I've been on in about 3 years I think (which is so hard to believe!!).
And, while I would love to say that in person everything clicked into place, unfortunately the date followed the same pattern as the email contact and the phone conversation beforehand. It was fine. And that was about it. Fine.
He seems to be a really pleasant bloke, family orientated, solvent, fit, and quite attractive, but he just didn't float my boat I'm afraid, which is pretty much what I expected. I had already been looking at the negatives of him before we met - particularly a 5yr old son (who he spends 4 days with/4 days without), the fact he is only seperated for 7 months, poor grammar/punctuation in emails, and other minimal but equally important factors.
I'm glad I went though, I had a nice time and it's about time I started putting myself out there again. I just need to get rid of the yardstick I subconsciously use to measure up any potential candidates. Easier said than done though!
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Friday, October 16, 2009
Wednesday, December 06, 2006
OG revealed!
Well, as some of you nosey little parkers have been donning your deerstalkers and smoking your pipes, I've decided to let the cat out of the bag officially regarding tonight's "date" and put you all out of your misery! This evening, I did, indeed meet the all revered Sleepless!!
If you want the rundown of how/where/when etc then go here... http://sleeplessinstaffordshire.blogspot.com/2006/12/who-is-she-who-is-she.html where, as usual, he has captured it in his usual succint and delightful fashion. For further details about "the man himself", and for comment on the "looks, attraction, chemistry and anything like that", (which he has very nicely avoided by the way!!), then stick around here just a little longer...
So, after some problems with traffic and my appalling sense of direction (granted), not to mention some questionable directions... (it's a bloody ROUNDABOUT!), we finally meet! I'm not going to go too much into the evening, as he has described it so well (including dodgy eavesdropping bloke who I am sure at this very moment is trying to track us both down in Blogland!!), so instead, on to the gossip... (which I know is what all you ladies are really wanting after all!!).
The conversation flowed and there was much laughing and giggling, which I'm sure would have got much much more raucous had we carried on the evening longer than we did. I don't think either of us dominated the conversation, (which is a miracle in my case!), and we discussed a range of things from the downright mundane to the much more interesting! I did learn some stuff about him, although I don't think much more than I had already picked up (I'm a perceptive little bugger you know!), and I think he has a slightly better idea of me as a whole person, although perhaps not in any great details. He was very easy to talk/listen to, and I felt comfortable with both him and the whole situation pretty much from the off, which I am pretty sure was reciprocated.
Physically, he was much smilier than in the pictures I have seen, although he was pretty much what I was expecting (no 92yr olds with buck teeth here, thank goodness!), and first impressions in that department were pretty good. He is an attractive man, although as I have said to him previously not exactly "my type". All good though, as I said yesterday I wasn't really expecting any massive romantic developments, for varying reasons, (one of which he confirmed without knowing pretty much straight away!!).
However... (and yes there is a however!) despite the above, (and not only am I putting myself on the line but I may also be wrong here!) I did feel there was a spark of chemistry there, for me at least. Not a blatant phrooarghh factor, but a very subtle undercurrent (and I have to admit to a tiny damp patch in the underwear area...!). I don't think enough to really proactively pursue, especially not considering the distance factor, but definitely something that if we repeated the evening a few times may develop into something physical, even if short-lived! (I'm interested to know by the way young(ish), (lol, sorry, couldn't resist!) Sleepless (even if in a private arena to save my dignity!)... Am I way off the ball here??)
I'm pretty sure that my original opinion that I am probably not his physical "type" (which he has annoyingly and very diplomatically not commented on! Grrr!!) remains accurate, despite the 'come to bed eyes' compliment, but he's a hard man to read, so who knows? Back to you on that one I guess Sleepless..!
So, will we be doing it again...? I don't know is the short answer! I would like to actually, and I would like to see him out of the suit, and somewhere loud and raucous where we could properly go for it on the twatting around, giggling and having a laugh factor. Anything more than that I don't know, but I do know he's a man I could definitely enjoy spending some time with and having a laugh with, if nothing else.
So, ladies, ask all the questions you wish (bearing in mind I won't answer anything that would infringe on his privacy, etc), while you can. Better be quick though, as I'm off for a libido inducing fiddle!
If you want the rundown of how/where/when etc then go here... http://sleeplessinstaffordshire.blogspot.com/2006/12/who-is-she-who-is-she.html where, as usual, he has captured it in his usual succint and delightful fashion. For further details about "the man himself", and for comment on the "looks, attraction, chemistry and anything like that", (which he has very nicely avoided by the way!!), then stick around here just a little longer...
So, after some problems with traffic and my appalling sense of direction (granted), not to mention some questionable directions... (it's a bloody ROUNDABOUT!), we finally meet! I'm not going to go too much into the evening, as he has described it so well (including dodgy eavesdropping bloke who I am sure at this very moment is trying to track us both down in Blogland!!), so instead, on to the gossip... (which I know is what all you ladies are really wanting after all!!).
The conversation flowed and there was much laughing and giggling, which I'm sure would have got much much more raucous had we carried on the evening longer than we did. I don't think either of us dominated the conversation, (which is a miracle in my case!), and we discussed a range of things from the downright mundane to the much more interesting! I did learn some stuff about him, although I don't think much more than I had already picked up (I'm a perceptive little bugger you know!), and I think he has a slightly better idea of me as a whole person, although perhaps not in any great details. He was very easy to talk/listen to, and I felt comfortable with both him and the whole situation pretty much from the off, which I am pretty sure was reciprocated.
Physically, he was much smilier than in the pictures I have seen, although he was pretty much what I was expecting (no 92yr olds with buck teeth here, thank goodness!), and first impressions in that department were pretty good. He is an attractive man, although as I have said to him previously not exactly "my type". All good though, as I said yesterday I wasn't really expecting any massive romantic developments, for varying reasons, (one of which he confirmed without knowing pretty much straight away!!).
However... (and yes there is a however!) despite the above, (and not only am I putting myself on the line but I may also be wrong here!) I did feel there was a spark of chemistry there, for me at least. Not a blatant phrooarghh factor, but a very subtle undercurrent (and I have to admit to a tiny damp patch in the underwear area...!). I don't think enough to really proactively pursue, especially not considering the distance factor, but definitely something that if we repeated the evening a few times may develop into something physical, even if short-lived! (I'm interested to know by the way young(ish), (lol, sorry, couldn't resist!) Sleepless (even if in a private arena to save my dignity!)... Am I way off the ball here??)
I'm pretty sure that my original opinion that I am probably not his physical "type" (which he has annoyingly and very diplomatically not commented on! Grrr!!) remains accurate, despite the 'come to bed eyes' compliment, but he's a hard man to read, so who knows? Back to you on that one I guess Sleepless..!
So, will we be doing it again...? I don't know is the short answer! I would like to actually, and I would like to see him out of the suit, and somewhere loud and raucous where we could properly go for it on the twatting around, giggling and having a laugh factor. Anything more than that I don't know, but I do know he's a man I could definitely enjoy spending some time with and having a laugh with, if nothing else.
So, ladies, ask all the questions you wish (bearing in mind I won't answer anything that would infringe on his privacy, etc), while you can. Better be quick though, as I'm off for a libido inducing fiddle!
Sunday, October 22, 2006
Improvements
I spent the majority of last night in a village working men's club! What the fuck!!!! How did I go from hot cool dates with DM to fucking working men's clubs with CM??? That is something that will definitely need addressing. I may be a divey pub kind of girl but I draw the line at WMC's! I will allow it as a one off, as we went to meet up with a couple of his mates that live in the village (the same village I lived in from 10-19 and would not return to!!), one of which was M. Which I have to say was a little strange, and slightly uncomfortable for the both of us, though CM seemed fine with it.
The difficulty was that I have always been quite flirty with M, and lots of banter etc, and it doesn't feel appropriate to be like that with him no - don't want to give anybody the wrong impressions. So, I'm not sure how to be with him. He seemed fine most of the night, I was quite quiet, not my usually gobby self, because of the situation and also because I don't know the other people fantastically well, but he did mention at the beginning (it was just me and him at that point), that he was glad me and CM had got it together. I just kind of dismissed it, and didn't really get the chance to comment after that. Though what would I say anyway?? He seemed fine for most of the evening, but that said I did feel he struggled a couple of times, and when CM and I went to leave (before the others) he did seem a little odd. And CM commented on that himself after we had gone, so it wasn't just me. His bloody loss though, he could have had a fucking great fuck buddy relationship if he had put a bit of effort in.
Have to say, I did find myself looking at M's hands and thinking 'those fingers have been inside me'. And then going on to think about how good it had felt when he slid his cock into me. And then had to stop myself having those wicked thoughts!
Anyway, enough thoughts about M! Sex with CM is looking up a little. Not sure if it was because he had had a few beers last night and was more relaxed but it was much much better. Which is a fucking good thing! Still not perfect, and still struggling with his size, and the fact that he is not DM, but generally it was the best it's been so there is hope!!
The only downside is I'm just not sure his sex drive is as high as mine, or sex is as important to him. I woke up this morning, and knew he had to leave quite early because he had some stuff planned today, but still felt the need to have a bit of a play with his chest, stomach, tops of thighs, etc - just skimming over his cock occasionally, which usually gives most men the green light for a nice lazy morning quickie, but I didn't really get a reaction! And definitely not him getting a raging hard on that he was just forced to slide into me!! Bummer!!
I think he is just quite controlled with himself. LIke before we went out last night, we were kissing, and I was straddling him on the sofa, and generally getting quite friendly, and he's a bit "come on, stop it or you'll get me all excited and you don't want to go out smelling all spunky". And I hate that really. I want to be with someone who can't help themselves but want me, (at least most of the time), and that I know fancies the fucking pants off me, and will take the lead and love that I am horny all the time, and will say "fuck going out, get your kit off and get up those stairs". With CM I guess I'm just not sure.
Like I said though, vast improvement on previously, so am sticking with it for a while (don't think it would take much to tempt me away though!), and keeping my fingers crossed. Probably not going to see him again until Sunday though, which is a fucker as I kind of want to pick up the pace now it's improved. And I'm still bloody horny!!
I have a real thing in my head at the moment about wanting to be tied and blindfolded and be free to be able to selfishly submit to some serious pleasure from a skilled skilled man. Think I need the release!
The difficulty was that I have always been quite flirty with M, and lots of banter etc, and it doesn't feel appropriate to be like that with him no - don't want to give anybody the wrong impressions. So, I'm not sure how to be with him. He seemed fine most of the night, I was quite quiet, not my usually gobby self, because of the situation and also because I don't know the other people fantastically well, but he did mention at the beginning (it was just me and him at that point), that he was glad me and CM had got it together. I just kind of dismissed it, and didn't really get the chance to comment after that. Though what would I say anyway?? He seemed fine for most of the evening, but that said I did feel he struggled a couple of times, and when CM and I went to leave (before the others) he did seem a little odd. And CM commented on that himself after we had gone, so it wasn't just me. His bloody loss though, he could have had a fucking great fuck buddy relationship if he had put a bit of effort in.
Have to say, I did find myself looking at M's hands and thinking 'those fingers have been inside me'. And then going on to think about how good it had felt when he slid his cock into me. And then had to stop myself having those wicked thoughts!
Anyway, enough thoughts about M! Sex with CM is looking up a little. Not sure if it was because he had had a few beers last night and was more relaxed but it was much much better. Which is a fucking good thing! Still not perfect, and still struggling with his size, and the fact that he is not DM, but generally it was the best it's been so there is hope!!
The only downside is I'm just not sure his sex drive is as high as mine, or sex is as important to him. I woke up this morning, and knew he had to leave quite early because he had some stuff planned today, but still felt the need to have a bit of a play with his chest, stomach, tops of thighs, etc - just skimming over his cock occasionally, which usually gives most men the green light for a nice lazy morning quickie, but I didn't really get a reaction! And definitely not him getting a raging hard on that he was just forced to slide into me!! Bummer!!
I think he is just quite controlled with himself. LIke before we went out last night, we were kissing, and I was straddling him on the sofa, and generally getting quite friendly, and he's a bit "come on, stop it or you'll get me all excited and you don't want to go out smelling all spunky". And I hate that really. I want to be with someone who can't help themselves but want me, (at least most of the time), and that I know fancies the fucking pants off me, and will take the lead and love that I am horny all the time, and will say "fuck going out, get your kit off and get up those stairs". With CM I guess I'm just not sure.
Like I said though, vast improvement on previously, so am sticking with it for a while (don't think it would take much to tempt me away though!), and keeping my fingers crossed. Probably not going to see him again until Sunday though, which is a fucker as I kind of want to pick up the pace now it's improved. And I'm still bloody horny!!
I have a real thing in my head at the moment about wanting to be tied and blindfolded and be free to be able to selfishly submit to some serious pleasure from a skilled skilled man. Think I need the release!
Friday, September 29, 2006
CM! (and puppies!!)
So here we are! Post CM date!! And OG the indecisive strikes again!!
I'd had a shit day at work which resulted in me blowing it off at 2.30pm and going to get a sun bed and a hair cut. Slightly less stressed for a bit but after running round like a mad thing; doing after-school club pick up, back for dinner, out for Rainbows with X, back to hoover, wash up, clean the bathroom, back to collect X from Rainbows, back to fly in the bath, only to have Y half an hour late getting back from swimming... I was not at my most relaxed and excited as you can imagine! CM duly arrives at 8pm, bang on time, and despite my stressful day I was pleased to be seeing him.
We went to a lovely restaurant for a meal, which was very nice, and sat chatting (I admit I may have done more of the chatting, but no change there!) eating, laughing and generally having a grand old time. Then came back to mine, where he came in for coffee, (at first ask). Sat and did more chatting for a couple of hours, and enjoyed having him entertain me with his party tricks (not sexual you filthy minded beasts!). Most amusing actually. So all sounding perfect so far...?
He went to leave and finally made the move (liberated woman that I am, I pretty much never make the very first move! Isn't that funny now I think about it!), we did some snogging, which was nice, bit more chatting, bit more snogging and then he left saying he had had a lovely time and asked me to text him when I was free and we would do it again. To which I agreed. Still sounding perfect...?
So, a lovely night had by all! But...
I just don't know!!!!!!!!! I had a great time, and he really really is a lovely bloke; funny, bright, chatty, relaxed, genuinely a good guy, but I just wasn't getting that grrrr factor like I did last week. And now I'm worried that I've leapt in a bit too soon.
I'm sure all you girls are thinking 'what's wrong with you OG?! He sounds perfect!', and no doubt all you men are thinking 'typical women can never make up their minds', so let me try and explain a little further...
I have a thing about puppies. Or rather men that turn into puppies. I don't like it. I don't like the pressure, the power to hurt other people that it gives me. I don't like to be doted on, it doesn't sit comfortably with me. Of course I want to be wanted, and of course I want to be treated right, but I'm not great with being adored! I like a man who can hold his own, who wants me in his life and makes that clear, but who is not going to change his life massively or instantly to accomodate me. And if a man (or anyone actually) walks around with doormat written on his forehead, or looking at me with puppy dog eyes then I will walk all over him and push him and push him to see how far he will go. And I don't like that aspect of my personality, I don't like being like that or treating people like that, and I don't like other people being hurt by that. And I'm worried CM has a bit of puppy in him, and that I will end up taking advantage of him, and because I know him I really don't want to go down that route.
A couple of things that set off my own personal OG alarm bells...
1. He has told M and KD about meeting me.
(Now granted, I did say I thought that he should get it out in the open straight away but the fact that he has before we even went out kind of makes it real. And shows that he is serious about seeing me. Pressure!)
2. He was like a cheshire cat at the physical contact.
(He actually commented on how great it was to be wanted, and about how he hasn't had that since his ex (April 2005 from what I can gather). This means it's a big deal for him. Pressure!)
3. I'm not sure if he makes me stomach twist with carnal lust.
(Now I know these things sometimes take time, and that a slow start in this department can mean a longer and better ending, but I'm used to lust, I can deal with that, and I'm so disappointed that last week I wanted to tear his clothes off and last night I didn't)
4. I'm not sure if he has any filth in him.
(Early days, but I can usually spot the glint in the eye)
So there we have it. An undecided OG! I am going to see him again, see how it goes, and as long as he keeps his cool and doesn't get too needy or doting things may be okay. We shall just have to see.
I'd had a shit day at work which resulted in me blowing it off at 2.30pm and going to get a sun bed and a hair cut. Slightly less stressed for a bit but after running round like a mad thing; doing after-school club pick up, back for dinner, out for Rainbows with X, back to hoover, wash up, clean the bathroom, back to collect X from Rainbows, back to fly in the bath, only to have Y half an hour late getting back from swimming... I was not at my most relaxed and excited as you can imagine! CM duly arrives at 8pm, bang on time, and despite my stressful day I was pleased to be seeing him.
We went to a lovely restaurant for a meal, which was very nice, and sat chatting (I admit I may have done more of the chatting, but no change there!) eating, laughing and generally having a grand old time. Then came back to mine, where he came in for coffee, (at first ask). Sat and did more chatting for a couple of hours, and enjoyed having him entertain me with his party tricks (not sexual you filthy minded beasts!). Most amusing actually. So all sounding perfect so far...?
He went to leave and finally made the move (liberated woman that I am, I pretty much never make the very first move! Isn't that funny now I think about it!), we did some snogging, which was nice, bit more chatting, bit more snogging and then he left saying he had had a lovely time and asked me to text him when I was free and we would do it again. To which I agreed. Still sounding perfect...?
So, a lovely night had by all! But...
I just don't know!!!!!!!!! I had a great time, and he really really is a lovely bloke; funny, bright, chatty, relaxed, genuinely a good guy, but I just wasn't getting that grrrr factor like I did last week. And now I'm worried that I've leapt in a bit too soon.
I'm sure all you girls are thinking 'what's wrong with you OG?! He sounds perfect!', and no doubt all you men are thinking 'typical women can never make up their minds', so let me try and explain a little further...
I have a thing about puppies. Or rather men that turn into puppies. I don't like it. I don't like the pressure, the power to hurt other people that it gives me. I don't like to be doted on, it doesn't sit comfortably with me. Of course I want to be wanted, and of course I want to be treated right, but I'm not great with being adored! I like a man who can hold his own, who wants me in his life and makes that clear, but who is not going to change his life massively or instantly to accomodate me. And if a man (or anyone actually) walks around with doormat written on his forehead, or looking at me with puppy dog eyes then I will walk all over him and push him and push him to see how far he will go. And I don't like that aspect of my personality, I don't like being like that or treating people like that, and I don't like other people being hurt by that. And I'm worried CM has a bit of puppy in him, and that I will end up taking advantage of him, and because I know him I really don't want to go down that route.
A couple of things that set off my own personal OG alarm bells...
1. He has told M and KD about meeting me.
(Now granted, I did say I thought that he should get it out in the open straight away but the fact that he has before we even went out kind of makes it real. And shows that he is serious about seeing me. Pressure!)
2. He was like a cheshire cat at the physical contact.
(He actually commented on how great it was to be wanted, and about how he hasn't had that since his ex (April 2005 from what I can gather). This means it's a big deal for him. Pressure!)
3. I'm not sure if he makes me stomach twist with carnal lust.
(Now I know these things sometimes take time, and that a slow start in this department can mean a longer and better ending, but I'm used to lust, I can deal with that, and I'm so disappointed that last week I wanted to tear his clothes off and last night I didn't)
4. I'm not sure if he has any filth in him.
(Early days, but I can usually spot the glint in the eye)
So there we have it. An undecided OG! I am going to see him again, see how it goes, and as long as he keeps his cool and doesn't get too needy or doting things may be okay. We shall just have to see.
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